“Don’t you do what Ginny did,” my brother Terry said angrily. It was 1974. We were in Maryland at our parents’ home, talking about giving our hearts to Jesus, which our older sister Ginny had recently done. Terry was the big brother I had fought with growing up, but dearly loved.

I was 19, and thinking about following Christ, too. We were churchgoers, but not close to God. A year after Ginny told Terry and me how to know Jesus personally, I gave Him my life, too. Terry thought it was “a bad idea.”

We soon scattered – Terry to Wyoming, and Ginny and her husband, Dan, to Papua New Guinea with Wycliffe Bible Translators. Joining Cru, I worked in the Virgin Islands and Mexico, and after meeting my husband, Ed, in the Philippines.

We all prayed for Terry.

Fasting on Fridays

As a new believer, I had learned about fasting. I decided to pray and fast Friday lunches for Terry’s salvation (with timeouts for pregnancies and nursing). Sometimes my prayers were impassioned. More often, they felt feeble. Still, the habit of fasting reminded me to pray.

Every few years, I wrote Terry about giving his heart to Jesus. He seemed disinterested until 1985, when I recorded his recent comments in my journal – “I’m not a heathen,” and, knowing Jesus “sounds good.”  

The same journal entry included my study of Romans 10:1, where the apostle Paul declared, “My heart’s desire and my prayer to God for them [the Jews] is for their salvation.” I wrote, “Is my brother’s salvation my dearest dream? Yes – and my prayer.”

Pray for “Christians of influence”

I heard Joy Dawson of Youth With A Mission speak on prayer in 1989. She recommended that we pray not only for our loved ones’ salvation, but also that they would become Christians of influence. I began to pray that way for Terry.

Sometimes, Terry drove trailer rigs for a living. Driving through Florida one night in 1996, he could find only one radio station on the air – a Christian one. Something he heard led Terry to conclude that Christianity might be true.

Ginny, me and Terry during our visit in Kansas

Soon after that, while Ginny and Dan and Ed and I were on furlough, we met Terry in Kansas, Ed’s home state, for a visit. Terry showed us materials he had ordered from the Christian radio station he had listened to. One night while we were in Kansas, Terry dreamed I was standing on the other side of an open door, calling to him to come through.

After supper the next day, each of us shared again with Terry how we came to know Jesus. Dan asked Terry what he thought salvation would be like, and he answered, “It’s like going through a door.” We all agreed. Terry didn’t tell us he answered that way because of his dream.

He wasn’t ready to pray with us, so Ed asked him if he knew what to do to begin following Christ, and he said he did.

“Spiritual things started happening”

On the phone with Terry a few days later, I heard the news I had longed to hear for 21 years. Alone in his home, Terry had prayed, “My Father in heaven, please forgive my sins. Thank you for your Son dying on the cross. Please come into my heart and be my Lord and Savior.”

“Immediately, spiritual things started happening,” Terry now recalls. He’s never said what those things were – we only know that our joyful, peaceful brother is proof of 2 Corinthians 5:17, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”

Terry loves studying the Bible, praying, sharing the gospel and ministering to others. He has become a Christian of influence!

Twenty-one years of prayer and 17 years of fasting one meal a week seem like nothing now that Terry knows Jesus.  Having this “new” brother is one of the greatest answers to prayer of my life.

What about you? Is God leading you to pray and fast on behalf of a family member or friend?


A version of the above post appears in the book Amazing Modern-Day Miracles, compiled by my friend Suzanne Frey. https://www.shopguideposts.org/amazing-modern-day-miracles-jesus-talked-to-me-today.html

You can also find a version of this post on cru.org: https://www.cru.org/us/en/blog/spiritual-growth/fasting/helping-my-brother-through-the-door.html

7 thoughts on “Helping My Brother Through the Door

    1. Thank you so much, Becky! I had forgotten that, but I believe we spoke about it when that happened! I appreciate your coming to my blog. 🙂 Hope you’re doing well.

    1. Not at all, Becky. I’d be honored! Thanks for checking. Always glad if you want to share what I post here.

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